Happy-you know what! Even I got sick of all the hearts and flowers and if I see one more flower shop get interviewed on the news(?), think I’ll go nuts! Yes, it’s a big day for them-huge profits. Chocolate shops as well…It’s on par with Christmas in the number of cards sent. No, I’m not just jealous. My husband gave me a card and a little heart of chocolates! And I’m the romantic one…
No, I’m upset because there isn’t a designated day for self-love. It is not the same as “retail therapy”! It doesn’t have to cost a thing. It’s a mindset-I read some figures that, unfortunately, just aren’t that surprising. Over 50% of women want to change something about themselves. “I’m too fat/thin/not chesty enough or too much upstairs…my eyes are too close /too wide/not sparkly enough and on and on!
Bottom line is I’m not good enough. How can you love yourself if you only see the flaws? The Media contributes to this mentality.
I see this with my midlife women clients in transitions. Midlife or boomer women seem to reassess their life and know something needs to change…They often get stuck with taking action. But that’s for another day.
Wanting to change your appearance is one thing, but many put down their intelligence. Hesitate to introduce an idea-already saying internally,”that’s a stupid idea…” You’ve already rejected it in your mind before you utter a word! If you sound doubtful-well, the rest of the team/family may have reservations, too. Approach them with your idea confidently and you’ll see how differently you are perceived.
Confidence in yourself and realizing you do have value, your contribution-your thoughts matter. The value you provide is critical. If you think you’re not good enough-why would anyone waste their time appreciating you? It starts within.
Sometimes, we all need assistance remembering to appreciate that someone in your life. We have Valentine’s Day to do just that.
Why not an Appreciate You Day?