I always intend to be completely honest-my transitions (changes in my life).
Change is inevitable and each Transition process of how you experience the change.Get your FREE chapter om book on Transitions-“Turning Midlife into the RIGHT Life!” at MarciaMerrill.com
What I want to share with you is I’m going through a transition from merely a loving spouse to one whose husband of almost 23 years, has at least Stage Two Bladder Cancer. So, now I’m his cheerleader/nurse/support system as he goes through this pretty scary,anxiety-ridden time.
May is Bladder Cancer awareness month-that’6 days from now.
At the same time, I’m running my coaching business. I’m working on my 2nd book,a compilation of personal stories of midlife women entrepreneurs that started a business at 40-55+, & a Momentum Mastermind group launch-info at Momentummastermindgroups.com –more on these later!
Transitions just don’t exist in a vacuum. You cannot put “life on hold” while you deal with a transition and its process.
The concept of talking face to face can’t be beat. Whether it be around the water cooler or online through Social media,human beings want to connect. The popularity of Meetups proves that.
When I go to “traditional”networking events-they usually involve a meal-no, I’m not starving! I just think “breaking bread” together breaks the ice. I like gatherings of mostly women, most of whom, are entrepreneurs and they are my target market.
I then, further the relationship by following up on Facebook or LinkedIn or email or, (gasp!) call them. I usually follow first by electronic means first and suggest a “Virtual coffee” using SKYPE or Zoom. If we discover we can be good referral partners, is, herself, a prospective client or Joint Venture Partner or a budding friendship, it might make sense to further the conversation in person or schedule a complimentary Live Your Life With Passion and Purpose Discovery session. One of my mentors says “the fortune’s in the follow up”.
I recently discovered a successful women who has a Customer Relationship Management system, (CRM) who does nothing with the business cards of those she met!! They are in the bottom of her purse.
Follow up, deepen the connection, it’s definitely worth it.
Last week, I went to Portland, Oregon and much chillier weather than in Baltimore! Why did I travel for 3 days? Simple-it was the 2017 Dream Big
CCIC (Chicks Connect Inspiration Conference) We had 2 days to really connect heart to heart, creating a synergy with like-minded (mostly women and a few men) from 55 chapters all over the country-Oregon, Arizona, Idaho,and ,of course, me from Baltimore, Maryland to name a few.
Yes, “networking” took place but it was more than just a business card exchange. We actually wanted to have a conversation about things other than business, the business card thing was an afterthought. Chicks Connect is dedicated to community, fun and is a global Mastermind where professional and personal development is emphasized. All the speakers brought information and humor designed to further our learning and growing.
Check out the Membership details and where they are as well as online chapters. You can attend any chapter once you’re a member!
I am starting and growing the Baltimore, Maryland chapter, Next Level Chicks. I joined but only did online and now taking point on starting a chapter. The sister Chicks I met both online as well as face to face-my support community. Everyone should have a community of like-minded peers.
A text greeted me that it was National Amaretto Day. Must’ve been a slow news day! I’m really not much of a drinker. You’ll see me with my green smoothie or a bottle of water way more often! Amaretto- means slightly bitter…It’s my go-to drink with sour mix-Amaretto Sour, in the winter. My fave melon colada is my” milkshake with a kick” but it’s really a drink for summer…ok, maybe Spring…
I think it’s pretty weird to have a liqueur celebrated. There’s probably a Drambouie Day or Anisette week or some beer day…No wait, Oktoberfest-it’s got a whole month!
To each his own. What National___ Day is your favorite?
This was the result of Author 101 University in October 2016. I needed the kick in the pants and took down a boatload of information on publishing, structuring your book, meeting with Literary Agents, Editors and much more! I reconnected with Ken Rochon & my book was back from printers’ before Christmas! “Turning Midlife into the RIGHT Life!” can be purchased at www.3StepTransitionCycle.com
So, I went to Author 101 University again in April. Just returned late Sunday night and have 19 pages-front and back of great information ! I now got to hear it through Author’s ears and, of course, picked up lots of new things!:) I signed up for Oct. 2017 again. No, I’m going to be working on my 2nd book!
If you’ve ever thought of writing a book,fiction or non-fiction, go to Author 101University!
Success can be confusing-we all want it, but…I want to be like my pets, relaxing when they want and not worrying about anything!
I am currently reading The Success Principles by Jack Canfield. These are ideas that are so obvious but incredibly valuable!
- Take 100% responsibility for what you do, say…The results you do or do not achieve.
- Well, of course, you say. But that means no blaming or rationalizations or whining & complaining-no one else or an outside cause for where you are.
- For myself, I allowed my illness and disability to stop me from doing what needs to happen.. As he says “results don’t lie!” Ouch! And it’s true.
Know why you’re here. What is your purpose? Mine is to inspire others to take action and inspire others through education, coaching and speaking as well as writing. This makes an impact and helps others live more fully.
If you know why you’re on the planet and you do that, you’ll live on purpose and enjoy what you do…even if it’s hard! Having a big Why pulls you through when you hit roadblocks and is the reason you overcome adversity!
Decide what you want. We often, don’t really think about this. How do know when you get there that you’ve satisfied that want. I want to be wildly successful, not there, yet. And my big WHY is to have the lifestyle that I can employ my husband, have a more intimate, stronger relationship. We can travel more, go tandem bicycling and do whatever we want. I can give more to the causes I believe in…the environment, a cure for Alzheimer’s,poverty- feeding the hungry-food banks and supporting human and animal rights…
You get to choose for all 3 tenets to live by. What are yours?
It’s so easy to let that little voice say some pretty negative things-Thank them for sharing…and move forward.
Here are five other suggestions to combat the negative self-talk!
What am I most proud of? it could anything from getting your GED to washing your car really well…The point is focus on the positives!
What do I get compliments on?
What is “uniquely my best self”? Great cook, Life of the party, volunteer like branding for business. What makes you,”you”?
What do I love to do…so much so, I lose track of time? Hint: often part of your “unique you”.
What did I do or simply be that felt amazing? When were you fantastic? Hint: Not always something you did! We are human BEINGS not human DOINGS.
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Now, it’s after MMI when we return to the “Real World”. Did my affirmations today on Financial Freedom and the Money Management System.
I don’t want to spoil it for you. There are numerous MMIs all over the world!
Think Life Triathlon. Just as you’d train to run a race or do an Ironman-112 miles on bicycle + 2.4 mile swim and then, run a marathon! Whew, I’m tired just thinking of it! 🙂
Well, the Life Marathon encompasses 3 main wants. These are more money, being happier and healthier and wanting more love-better relationship with family, friends, joint venture partners and business partners. Most everybody wants more of these things.
Success Resources, formerly, New Peaks and came from Peak Potentials by T. Harv Eker. Their Quantum Leap Program addresses all of these and more!
It was the best decision I ever made and improved these aspects of my life.
The beginning is attending the Millionaire Mind Intensive. Check out this calendar-they’re all over North America and worldwide! Check it out!
I’ve been transitioning from a sick person to a healthy one! 🙂
You may have missed my insightful banter, I am now an author of a book! not eBook, this one of those you hold in your hands.www.3StepTransitioncycle.com
And a few chapters in some anthologies and such…
But my purpose for today’s post was inspired by the awful mix-up at The Academy Awards! Most everybody knows what I’m talking about!
It started me thinking about when we make a mistake. What do we do? I made a huge mistake?
I had 25 posters made of an event-proofed it beforehand…a bill and the posters arrived. First thing I noticed- no date that event will be held!
I could have gone to my Director and said “oh no” what we will we do now? WRONG!
*Whenever you make a mistake rather than dump it in your boss’ lap…Instead, tell them the problem AND suggest a solution or implement your solution and you may tell your boss after.
In my case, I told of the problem and the solution as there were finances involved and I needed her to approve.
The bad posters were “repurposed” to make our own signs and ordered 25 more signs including the date of the event!
*What if you made a mistake in your business? Any program/workshop/event that you do, you are the employee as well as the boss, if you are a solopreneur. like me.
Ask yourself these 3 questions:
- What went right?
- What didn’t go right,not wrong-that can be very depressing! Most people are the worst self-critic. You’ll hear that little voice-“you can’t do anything right”…You’re always a failure…and that “Negativity Chorus” drones on and on…Stop! Thank you (those negative voices) for sharing and move on!
- What will I do differently? (What have I learned and course-correct)
That learning will help you the next time.
What have you learned from your mistakes?